WHERE DOES STRESS COME FROM !! WHAT ARE THE MAIN SOURCES OF STRESS?
In this new sub-theme, WHERE DOES STRESS COME FROM? WHAT ARE THE MAIN SOURCES OF STRESS? I have tried to make a list of things and events that are the basis or origin of stress in people's lives. Here is a list of 10 things or events that can be a source of stress in many people's lives.
1.NEGATIVE EVENTS:
Negative events (Bad Memory) that you have experienced or are going through in your life and that you cannot stop thinking about and that you cannot turn the page on will end up distressing and affecting your brain and turning into daily stress.
HOW DO NEGATIVE EVENTS AFFECT US AND CAUSE STRESS IN OUR DAILY LIFE?
First of all, you should know that when stress attacks you, it first affects your brain, which is one of the most active organs in the human body, before affecting your entire being, including your soul and mind. Because untreated stress ends up becoming a psychosomatic illness. And the brain plays a very important role in surviving depression, stress and psychosomatic illnesses.
How does our brain work when we go through difficult times?
In general, the negative events that we have experienced in our life do not disappear in our head, they are stored in the brain and all this information is intended to protect us from future danger or to help us avoid making the same mistakes in the future, so it becomes like a kind of red flash in our head that alerts us to future danger.
But the bad news is that all these negative events stored in our brain cause us to pay more attention to bad news than to good news. That is why it is easier for us to remember bad things, because our brain releases hormones that reinforce these bad memories, which end up reminding us of what we have experienced in the past. And as a result, we have more stress in our lives, and for some people who fail to turn the page on their lives and live happily, this leads to endless periods of stress in their lives.
Examples of negative events:
Disappointment, rejection, rape, divorce, romantic disappointment, abuse and many other traumatic events. The announcement of an event, perceived positively (pregnancy) or negatively (dismissal) can generate stress in the lives of some people.
2.WORRY (CONCERN, AGITATION :)
What does worry mean?
Disturbance (disturbance) caused by fear, uncertainty.
Synonyms: panic, agitation, fear, uncertainty, anxiety, terror, anguish, preoccupation.
Worry is often the cause of much of the stress and depression in many people's daily lives. Due to the global economic crisis and the social, family and other realities of life, many individuals and families are living under financial, sexual and emotional pressure that forces them to endure sometimes prolonged and endless stress.
Stress-producing worries can be triggered by loss of a loved one, loss of a job or lack of work, rejection by society or community, divorce, lack of husband, lack of wife, lack of sexual activity, loss of health, infertility, lack of money and unpaid bills and many other traumatic events etc... This list of daily events or challenges, if you do not handle them well in your life, can lead you to prolonged stress without end.
It is written in the Word of God in Philippians 4:6
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” Instead of worrying, we can trust God through prayer with faith, He will eventually comfort us or answer us.
PHILIPIANS 4:5-7
Let your gentleness be known to all men. The Lord is near. 6Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving present your requests to God. 7And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.
MATTHEW 6:25-34
25 Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat, or what you will drink? or what you will wear. Is not the life more than food, and the body more than clothing? 26 Consider the birds of the air: for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of much more value than they? 27 Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature? 28 And why are you worried about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, but are like thistles. 29 Yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. 30 If God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? 31 Therefore do not worry, saying, What shall we eat? or what shall we drink? or wherewith shall we be clothed? 32 For after all these things do the Gentiles seek: for your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33 But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added to you. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.
3, LACK OF ADAPTION TO YOUR NEW LIFE:
(THE LACK OF ADAPTION TO THE RHYTHMS OF YOUR NEW LIFESTYLE.)
The other thing that brings stress into our life is the lack of adaptation to our new life or social status. Some people have a hard time adapting or moving from one life to another.
It is important to know that moving from one life to another is not an easy thing, especially when you have not been well prepared, it creates a lot of stress and pressure in your brain. Abrupt and unprepared transitions from one life to another can be stressful for some people.
A new life or social status that one is not well prepared for can become a nightmare and a source of daily pressure for some people, which can cause stress that can become chronic if not addressed or managed as soon as possible.
That is why it is important in life to know how to adapt to the rhythm and demands, even to the whims of your new lifestyle or social status. Otherwise you risk that this new lifestyle or social status, whether professional, marital, family or social, will turn into an endless chain of stress.
That is why you see that the first five years of marriage are often very hard to live because we try to adapt to each other in this new life that sometimes requires a lot of tolerance, patience and compromise to finally arrive after a lot of effort to create a family atmosphere of peace, joy and tranquility and it takes time and those who succeed in finding this balance sometimes do so at the great cost of the chains of stress that they have triumphed over.
Similarly, someone who is moving from one job to another imagines that you have been unemployed for 5 years and you are used to sleeping until 12:00 and suddenly you find a job that requires you to get up at 5:00 in the morning to start at 6:00. This will create a lot of pressure on you because your habit of getting up will be abrupt. And if you are not able to handle it well, this situation can put you into stress.
BIBLICAL EXAMPLE OF LACK OF ADAPTATION TO THE NEW WAY OF LIFE:
In the Bible, the people of Israel were stressed by the change in lifestyle because suddenly, without being well prepared, they found themselves in the desert and were forced to adapt to this way of life and survive until they entered Canaan. And those who could not adapt to this way of life began to murmur against God and Moses, to the point of preferring to be slaves in Egypt rather than to be free in the wilderness.
EXODUS 16:1-4
1Then the whole congregation of the children of Israel journeyed from Elim and came to the wilderness of Sin, which is between Elim and Sinai, on the fifteenth day of the second month after they had come out of the land of Egypt. 2And the whole congregation of the children of Israel murmured against Moses and Aaron in the wilderness. 3The children of Israel said to them, Would to God that we had died by the hand of the LORD in the land of Egypt, when we sat by the flesh pots, when we did eat bread to the full! for you have brought us into this wilderness to kill all this multitude with hunger. 4The LORD said to Moses, Behold, I will rain bread from heaven for you. The people shall go out and gather day by day as much as is necessary, that I may prove them, whether they will walk in my law or not.
In conclusion to this story of the wilderness, many died in the wilderness without seeing the promised land because they could not adjust to the wilderness life which was their new life.
4. POOR TIME MANAGEMENT:
The other thing that generates stress in some people's lives is the lack of time management. Because when the life you lead is much faster than the capabilities of your brain, and you do not have good time management, it will cause you more stress because you will often find yourself with too little time but too many things to do in your daily life. and because of the pressure of time, it is possible that you have more and more stress in your life. If you are in this situation, you must learn to manage your time properly.
The best way to get out of this situation is to start planning your day well by having a list of things to do that you want to accomplish at the end of each day and good time management for each thing that you have to accomplish at the end of each day.
5. LACK OF REST:
You should know that your brain is one of the human organs that needs a lot of energy to function properly. That is why, often, after working hard, it needs rest for its resources. Because the more boring and intense an activity is, the faster your brain will get tired, and this can happen in just four minutes or up to an hour or two depending on the person.
That is why it is so important that you understand when your brain is tired by detecting the signs that indicate that your brain is tired because your brain does not have pain receptors and you understand that it is tired when your eyes are tired and you start making mistakes. Or you become inefficient, you lose your will or you notice a drop in energy. If you feel this way, it means that sometimes you need to take a break for a few days to relax properly, eat enough and especially sleep enough to allow your brain to refresh itself.
You should know that brain fatigue causes stress and stress causes fatigue. It is also very important to manage stress because too much stress can lead to chronic diseases.
6. CONFLICTS:
It is proven that conflicts are a great source of stress because they can cause you to accumulate resentment and anger that can generate stress in your life. Whether it is marital, family, friendly or professional conflict, you must learn to quickly negotiate conflicts and seek peace with everyone as the Bible says.
Because unmanaged conflicts are often a great source of stress and knowing how to manage conflicts and especially forgive those who have hurt you will bring you great relief from the pressure that weighs on you.
7. DEMONS:
We must not neglect the spiritual side, because devils, demons and evil spirits are also the cause of a lot of stress in people's lives. A witch testified during a soul cure that her mission was to send troubles and stress into people's lives to push them to hate themselves and commit suicide.
BIBLICAL EXAMPLE:
King Saul was possessed by evil spirits that tormented him by agitating his spirit and he had no peace because he was troubled and stressed by the presence of evil spirits.
1 SAMUEL 16:14-23
14 The Spirit of the Lord departed from Saul, and an evil spirit from the Lord agitated him. 15 Then Saul's servants said to him, Behold, an evil spirit from God is agitating you. 16 Let our lord speak! Your servants are before you. They will seek a man who can play the harp; and when the evil spirit from God is upon you, he will play with his hand, and you will be refreshed. 17 Saul said to his servants, Find me a man who can play well, and bring him to me. 18 One of the servants answered and said, Behold, I have seen a son of Jesse the Bethlehemite, who can play; he is also a mighty man of valour, a warrior, well-spoken and handsome in countenance; and the LORD is with him. 19Saul sent messengers to Jesse, saying, Send me David your son, who is with the sheep. 20 Jesse took a donkey and loaded it with bread, a skin of wine, and a kid of the goats, and sent them to Saul by David his son. 21 David came to Saul and stood before him; he pleased Saul greatly, and he was appointed to be his armor bearer. 22 Saul sent to Jesse, saying, “Please leave David in my service, for he has found favor in my eyes.” 23 And when the Spirit of God was upon Saul, David took up a harp and played with his hand; and Saul breathed easier and was relieved, and the evil spirit departed from him.
8. DIFFICULTY IN MANAGING AN UNEXPECTED SITUATION:
Sudden and unexpected situations or programs can be a source of stress if you do not master how to handle the situation.
9. PRESSURE:
Social, intellectual and family pressure
related to work, university, school or everyday social or family situations are also important sources of stress that should not be overlooked.
10. TRAUMA:
The difficulty in coping with the trauma experienced can place a person in a situation of chronic stress.
IN CONCLUSION:
Everyone reacts differently to stressful situations, and coping styles and symptoms of stress vary from person to person. It is completely natural to feel stressed in difficult situations such as a job interview, a school exam, an excessive workload, an unstable job or a conflict with family, friends or colleagues. For many people, stress decreases over time, as the situation improves or they learn to manage their emotions.
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